Coach-Parent Partnership

Research is clear that when parents and teachers work together a child tends to do better in school. There is no reason to think that it is any different in youth sports. The following are some guidelines for how parents can contribute to a Coach/Parent Partnership that can help the athlete have the best possible experience

1. Recognize the Commitment the Coach Has Made: The coach has made a commitment that involves many, many hours of preparation beyond the hours spent at practices and games. Recognize his commitment and try to remember this whenever something goes awry during the season.



2. Make Early, Positive Contact with the Coach: As soon as you know who your child’s coach is going to be, contact him and let him know you want to help your child have the best experience he can have this season. Ask if there is any way you can help. By getting to know the coach early and establishing a positive relationship, it will be much easier to talk with him later if a problem arises.



3. Fill the Coach's Emotional Tank: When the coach is doing something you like, let him know about it. Coaching is a difficult job and most coaches only hear from parents when they want to complain about something. This will help fill the coach’s emotional tank and contribute to his doing a better job. It also makes it easier to raise problems later when you have shown support for the good things he is doing.



4. Don't Put the Player in the Middle: It is all too common for parents to share their disapproval of a coach with their children. This puts a young athlete in a bind. Divided loyalties do not make it easy for a child to do their best. Conversely, when parents support a coach, it is that much easier for the child to put their wholehearted effort into learning to play well. If you think your child"s coach is not handling a situation well, do not tell that to the player. Rather, seek a meeting with the coach in which you can talk with him about it.



5. Don't Give Instructions During a Game or Practice: You are not one of the coaches, so do not give your child instructions about how to play. It can be very confusing for a child to hear someone other than the coach yelling out instructions during a game. As in #4 above, if you have an idea for a tactic, go to the coach and offer it to him. Then let him decide whether he is going to use it or not. If he decides not to use it, let it be. Getting to decide those things is one of the privileges he has earned by making the commitment to coach.

6. Fill Your Child's Emotional Tank: Perhaps the most important thing you can do is to be there for your child. Competitive sports are stressful to players and the last thing they need is a critic at home. Be a cheerleader for your child. Focus on the positive things he is doing and leave the correcting of mistakes to the coach. Let him know you support him without reservation regardless of how well he plays.

7. Fill the Emotional Tanks of the Entire Team: Cheer for all of the players on the team. Tell each of them when you see them doing something well.



8. Encourage Other Parents to Honor the Game: Don't show disrespect for the other team or the officials. But more than that, encourage other parents to also Honor the Game. If a parent of a player on your team begins to berate the official, gently say to them, "Hey, that's not Honoring the Game. That's not the way we do things here."





Note: These guidelines are adapted from "Positive Coaching: Building Character and Self-Esteem Through Sports" by Jim Thompson, the founder and leader of the Positive Coaching Alliance.​

Alone at the Plate​

He pulls on a helmet, picks up the bat,
and walks to the plate, “gotta hit and that’s that.”
The crowd starts to yell, the game’s on the line,
last inning, two outs, the score’s nine to nine.
Dad yells, “Go get it,” Mom wrings her hands,
coach hollers, “hit it,” but alone there he stands.
Heroes are made in seconds such as this,
but he’s just a little boy, what if he should miss?
Years after this game’s ended and he’s little no more,
will he remember the outcome or even the score?
No he’ll have forgotten if he was out, hit, or a run,
he’ll only look back on his friends and the fun.
So cheer this boy on, alone with his fate;
help him remember with fondness this stand at the plate.
Spend your time wisely and help in his quest
to be a hitter with confidence and always his best.
And when the game’s over, this boy can stand tall,
for you’ve helped him prepare to give it his all

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